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Living In Balance

The Balance Of Life and Spirit
Many people these days are taking a good look at themselves and their lives. They look at how they interact with their family unit, how they conduct themselves within business matters and how much time they spend on making the all might dollar and the illusive career. With the next evolution of the spiritual human beginning in full swing in June 1996, people are trying to find the right balance of life's daily events.
Many people are searching for something "bigger" or "more meaningful" within their lives. Many look outside, some inside and some to higher forces. As a person becomes more aware of their desires to find a spiritual nature that fits within their concepts of divinity and faith, a lot of things begin to change in their lives. And sometimes, maybe more than not, people suddenly become very critical of themselves.
Perhaps it's because the common idea of what a "spiritual person" is and can often be far beyond our capabilities to attain. We look in a mirror and condemn ourselves for something we did that was "non-spiritual". We may say I've "fallen from grace" and then beat ourselves up about it later. But we try the next day to aspire to the illusive image again.
It's great to have lofty goals, as long as you can attain some of them once in a while. But one thing to remember is that our soul is only 50% of who we really are. We are also 50% human, and as such we have human desires, needs and emotions. Those human traits are not always conducive to spiritual thinking or spiritual ways of living. But we don't have to beat ourselves up about it.
There is some validity in the old adage "Too much of a good thing can still be bad for you". It's very true. Living to much in the spiritual mind and not being grounded isn't any better than those who live in the physical world and never give their spiritual natures a second thought, or a first one for that matter. It's an adage that tries to define living in extremes is not living in balance.
What we are here to learn above all, is balance. Through that lesson, you can learn acceptance, and how to let go of the past. Letting go doesn't mean loving those who hurt you, rather it means forgiving them within yourself and then letting go of the emotions to move on.
Many people think being a spiritual person means you don't cuss, you don't lie, you don't have bad thoughts, you don't drink, do drugs, or talk about sex. To some you don't even have fantasies or get angry or even say a bad word about anyone. Now if that's living as a spiritual person, then no one on this planet can call themselves spiritual. Being someone who is always pushed around emotionally because you believe that's what living as a spiritual person means, isn't living in balance. Perhaps your lesson would be to learn how to stand up for yourself, believing you have rights and your own emotions have validity.
If someone makes you mad, then accept the emotion for what it is. It is a human emotional response to a personal situation. Now isn't that what you're here to learn about? Aren't we here to experience human interactions and emotions on all levels in order to learn? How are you going to do that, if you don't "feel" any emotions?
Living in balance means keeping that anger in perspective. You don't take it out on someone else and you don't try to kill or mame the person you are mad at. You just accept the emotion for what it is. If you lash out at the person who made you mad, then you will have to accept the consequences of the energy you created by doing so. Better to accept, let go, and allow the divine laws of karma to provide justice. If you act upon desires to avenge your emotions, you will be no better off than the person who hurt you.
Being spiritual means you trust in the Divine to take care of you, and allow the Divine forces of the universe to deliver justice to those who deserve it. Learn for yourself how to let go of the anger, let go of the hate and hurt, and move on with your life in balance.
I'd like to note, we're not talking about physical crimes here. We're talking about personal emotional issues. If you believe someone has harmed you physically, then we urge you to contact the authorities in your area.
How Do I Create Balance?
To live in balance means more than accepting your natural human instincts. It also means looking objectively at why you react the way you do to situations, people and so on. Analyzing too much isn't good either, but looking at a situation for it's spiritual significance, is it karmic, if so how do you redeem it. Is it a lesson or test of faith, and so on. Let's look at two examples.
Madge is a middle-age woman, married with no children. She and her husband Max both hold management positions and are very good at what they do. During the off time, they are involved in church activities, gardening and going to the theater. Madge manages both her home life and professional life with pride and fairness. Indeed she is thought of as a great team player. She makes decisions by vote or consensus. She rarely if ever is part of controversy of any kind. She is described as a kind, sweet woman.
One day, Madge meets a new boss. A young man who is "gung-ho", driven and a little egotistical and arrogant. This boss begins talking to her in angry tones, accusing her of not being a good manager, not being able to plan projects correctly and so on.
Madge continues to get angry and hurt by these interactions with the boss, but she is trying to live a spiritual life. She keeps her comments to herself, she doesn't speak badly of the boss to anyone and she continues to turn the other cheek. She tells Max and leans on his shoulder, but she speaks to no one else about the situation. The new boss gives her a poor review and tells her she must improve or she'll be put on 6 months probation. After that she'll be fired.
Now, the question is, Is Madge living in balance?.
Click here to learn the Answer.
We are all part human and part spiritual being. We need to accept those traits we see in ourselves as "un-spiritual". It is who you are. How can you ignore part of yourself? Better to address the part you don't care for and change it to a positive you do like. Bottom line is, learn how to accept the human traits you have within your being. They're just as important as the spiritual gifts you're trying to attain.
If you want to balance your energies, take a look at the Balance Your Energies how to article.

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