Sex and Magik
- Sex and Magik
- Sex and magik have long gone hand in hand. This is nothing
new and contrary to 'moral' attitudes, it's not something that's
done just to get laid. Linking the sexual act with divine forces
was an easy leap for early man. Not understanding the medical
process of copulation and conceiving. Prehistoric tribes documented
their divine rituals through cave paintings which depict this
idea fairly well.
- Figurines such as the 'Venus of Willendor' are perfect examples
of the early reverence for fertility of a woman and her ability
to give new life. This miracle of life was seen just as that,
a miracle given to a woman by a deity, or the Goddess. A woman
who was extremely fertile was considered to be favored by the
Gods/Goddess and her position was elevated within her tribal
structure. Often being designated as the priestess or chieftain
of the tribe.
- When early man realized it took two to create life, the pendulum
slowly switched from focusing on the matriarch to the patriarch.
As long as a woman could bear children, she still held great
power within her tribe. When the priestess grew older and less
fertile, she often chose her successor. But her singular power
shifted to that of a wise woman who was always consulted when
it came to decisions. The new successor would then share the
power within the tribe with a deserving male. Different tribes
required different tests of courage or prowess for a male of
the tribe to earn the right to lay with the priestess. Most often
it would involve hunting or gathering food to provide for the
tribe as a whole. The hunter who brought the largest prize from
a hunt would earn the right to lay with the Priestess. The physical
act of copulation would then be part of a great celebration and
ritual to honor the Gods/Goddess for providing for the tribe.
- Where the fertility of a woman was seen as a blessing or
as the Goddess living through the woman, the strength and ability
of a man to provide for the tribe was seen as the God blessing
him as well. This is the early concept of the Horned
God seen throughout legend and myth.
- Today, these rituals are used for establishing fertility
and prosperity. Whither it's fertility of the family unit or
the creation of prosperity, the personal nature of these rituals
must be approached with great reverence, respect and honor for
- A Little History
- From the beginnings of recorded history, we know that in
Mesopotamia and Chaldea, Prostitution was a sacred profession,
unlike today. Sacred Prostitution was seen as holy and practioners
were providing a service of the Goddess. A man would go to the
temple and with an offering, he would request service of a Priestess
within. His purpose was to gain favor of the Goddess for more
children back at home with his wife, or an extra bit of fertility
for his fields, or herds of sheep, cattle or camels. In lying
with the Priestess he might feel blessed or honored, and go home
full of confidence. He might dig extra irrigation ditches for
his fields, or be more encouraged to lay with his wife.
- To a great extent the myths of the Greeks is to a greater
or lesser extent concerned with sex. The Greek pantheons constantly
sought out human partners who's conceived children that became
demi-gods. These myths had both a good and bad side of their
tale. On one hand, divine unions were seen as gifts from the
Gods and often became ritualized. They became honored experiences
even if they didn't yield a child. On the other hand some tribes
such as the Samothraki, involved the sacrifice of young men at
one point in their history. Some Priestess would lay with a young
man and to ensure she would become pregnant, she carried a very
sharp, leaf-shaped knife which she used to take the life of the
man she lay with. Sacrificing his life would ensure his essence
was transferred to her womb. Even the Bible has it's Divine/Human
conception with Yewah placing his 'seed' in the womb of Mary,
who became the Mother of Jesus as a result.
- All this began to change after the fall of Rome and with
the rise of Christianity. Sex began to be denied both as a source
of magikal power and of pleasure between partners. Where sex
was seen as a gift from the gods, it was now a sin and to find
pleasure was an influence of the Devil. By this time, women were
seen as the temptress who could drag a man down into the pits
of hell and the only way to keep her from having that control,
was for her to be subservient to her husband, brother, or even
her son. Her sole value became her ability to bear children which
quickly became a bargaining point as a bribe or a prize of war.
- Items such as a Chastity belt became common place, but were
deadly for the woman who wore them. After years of being forced
in such contraptions, a woman would develop various diseases,
including blood poisoning. During this time, a woman's life expectancy
was no more than 30 years. Her entire value, power and favored
desires were forgotten and tossed aside in these Christian societies.
- Some Basic Requirements
- Now there are few rituals that actually use the physical
act of sex. But those that do, do so with specific purpose and
intent. In addition, and as with anything, the concepts of sexual
magik can be used for positive purpose and misused as a negative
act. All practioners MUST understand the purposes and difference
of the two. Sexual harassment, demanding sexual favors in return
for something needed, even on a spiritual level is misuse. Forcing
the act of sex is rape, plain and simple and in a ritual it's
more than misuse, it's also spiritual rape. It is a desecration
of the first Holy Grail - the womb. Any time anyone says no,
for any reason or purpose, then the act stops. Period. There
is no shame in saying no and no reputable Priest or Priestess
will force anyone into anything.
- It's also important to note that sexual magik is not for
children or underage adults. All those who walk a spiritual path
have a responsibility to protect the young as sacred creations
of the Divine Spirit. Any act that disrespects this view is not
only illegal, it is also spiritually immoral and an affront to
the Divine Spirit. And that does include acts between same aged
adolescence. Don't think that using a religious belief is a reason
for teenage sex. It's not.
- Sex Magik is meant to be a sacred act between consenting
'adult' partners. It requires a level of caring and love between
partners to create and generate the desired energy that empowers
the intent of the act itself.
- Establishing A Ritual
- It is very important to align your energies with the Divine
Spirit. This is one of the most important parts of creating a
working ritual. There are two steps to this process.
- Defining your intent. Just using sex in a ritual isn't enough
to justify the act. You must have a specific reason and intent
for creation magik.
- Raising energy is especially
needed for a rites of Sexual Magik. Partners must take some extra
care and time to pull in the Divine forces of the God and Goddess
into their own physical being as the first step.
- Great reverence is placed on the creation center of the woman.
These are the ovaries and womb. Consider using crystals or symbols
that empower the energy of this area.
- The Tree of Life is one example. The symbol is laid on top
the human body to represent the various energy centers. The Yesod
or the moon sphere (the white circle in the center of the Tree
of Life), is placed on top of the ovaries of a woman and the
testes of the man. Yesod is the sphere of creation and is aligned
with the element of water. An element long associated with the
flow of life and sexual energy. It's also associated with the
root of creativity, creation and thus the essence of life itself
where first principles come into being.
- Some people like to use a washable marker and draw a symbol
of water over the lower abdomen of their partner to represent
water, or flow of life. Another idea is to place crystals around
the ritual space, be it a bed or floor, aligning the crystals
energy with the chakra center that will be placed beside the
crystal. You can review the Crystal
Chart for more information.
- Candles can also be used for this purpose as well. Safely
placing the candles around the ritual space, where they will
not be touched or accidentally knocked over during the ritual.
You can refer to the Candle Magik Basics
for more information.
- Start with Creating your Circle.
- With your ritual space established, the couple enters the
- Standing in the center of the space, say your prayer, set
your intent, raise energy and pull in the essence of the God
- If you've chosen to use a symbol in your ritual, create it
and set it's foundation next.
- The act itself should be one of compassion, gentleness and
- Through out the act, communication is of the utmost importance
in raising your energies. Make sure both are comfortable and
at ease with all that is happening. Being uncomfortable will
degrade the energy of the working.
- Consider reciting affirmations that express your feelings
and desires of the intent of the ritual as well.
- At the moment of climax, both partners need to focus their
energies on the results of the intent of this ritual. Even something
as simple as saying: "To create prosperity for our family,
I release the essence of the God or Goddess creation", can
set the energy you've created for manifestation.
- Spend some time laying with each other and visualizing your
energy moving out into the ethereal and manifesting your intent.
See it being created and becoming reality. Talk about it and
share your vision with each other adding to it's energy.
- As with all rituals it should end with giving thanks. Not
just to the Divine force you called into your ritual, but to
each other as well.
- When you're ready, clean up your ritual space.
- Sex Magik is not something to be exercised on a whim or without
reverence. Because of the personal nature of these rituals, it
is something to be approached with great intent, respect and
honor for each other. Many spiritual teachers strongly suggest
these rituals be held in private between partners. Use your best
judgment and communicate fully with each other before engaging
in these types of rituals. Make sure it's comfortable for all
parties involved to ensure the best creation of energy possible.
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- Created: 06.03.2002